Release the Negative
It is safe to say there is A LOT going on right now. And with an overwhelming amount of change, injustice, and pain going through the world it can build up so much negative and anxiety inducing energy. This is going to be how we can start to release some of it. It won’t all disappear at once, but over time we get better at releasing it as it comes.
1. Notice the Good In Comparison to the Negative
By having negative feelings, events, challenges, we can grow an appreciation for the positive feelings, events, successes and practice a deeper gratitude for them. Also it has been researched that by having adversities in our lives it makes us more resilient. When something is uncomfortable or pressing, it can be the catalyst for positive change to come.
2. Think About Who Surrounds You
If you can cut ties with someone who drains you then by all means take action and fill their spot with supportive and loving friends and family. But often that person who keeps us down can be someone who we just can’t cut lose. So what do you do? Try to understand and empathize with what they could be feeling. They could have low self-esteem, sadness, anxiety, etc, and feeling negative towards others may feel good for them. So you can try to talk it out, or simply smile and move on. If they don’t take the hint then try to limit your time for small doses of togetherness.
3. Gratitiude
Studies have shown that by acknowledging and dwelling on what we are grateful for we attract more positive emotions into our lives. I typically like to think throughout the day different things that make me feel grateful and abundant, but that can be hard to start with. What I practice with my fiancé is at the end of the day just before bed, I ask, “what is one thing that was good today, that made you grateful?” and that is it. Another great practice is writing down 3 things you are grateful for in the morning or evening, and then you are creating a list of the goodness in your life for you to look back on any time.
4. Mantras and Affirmations
Not only are these great tools for daily life, but especially when heading into a difficult or nerve-wracking situation can having a ‘motto’ help. For example, work interview? “I am smart, kind, and capable”. Family event? “I can’t control anyone’s behaviour other than mine, I got this”. What are some other ones you can think of?
5. Enjoy Some Down Time
Plan time for things that bring you happiness and joy. By scheduling it out it can give you an event (even if small) to look forward too. For example, a yoga class, a date with a friend or family member, a movie night, sushi date, etc. Make it something you love and plan for it.
6. Freshen Up Around You
Refreshing your space, and the things you surround yourself with can make a huge difference on mood. If you love your surroundings, feel at peace and calm – it will come through. If your space frustrates you or triggers bad memories – that will come through too. My favourite quick pick me up is some fresh flowers in my favourite vase.
7. Have Personal Boundaries
If certain activities make you feel negative than change it up. If scrolling on social media makes you feel icky, either be on it less or change who you follow or interact with (or both of these ideas).